Handwritten notes have a unique power to resonate deeply with children, offering reassurance in their formative years and powerful development opportunities. Bob Goff once said “tell someone who they are and watch them become it.”
Take the story of an 11-year student Maya. Historically, Maya's report cards had been brimming with accolades like "hard worker" and "bright and curious." She was often referred to as "every teacher’s dream." However, a change in teaching staff one year led her to face an unexpectedly rough day at school. After accidentally hitting her head on a wall, rather than receiving sympathy, she was scolded publicly. This incident left Maya humiliated and questioning her self-worth.
Recognizing the fragility of the moment, her mother decided on a thoughtful approach. She pooled together all of Maya's past report cards, highlighting the consistent praises given by her past teachers. To these, she added her own handwritten note:
Dear Maya, you are a teacher's dream as told by many of your teachers in the past. I highlighted much of it to remind you who you are.... a smart, caring, studious, and fun girl with a magnetic personality. I love you so much - Mom."
This isn't just about restoring a child's confidence. This is about grounding them in their identity, ensuring they understand that a singular experience, especially one stemming from another person’s negativity, doesn't define them. Notes used in this way can be a powerful means to root kids in the consistency of her character.
Children, like all of us, will inevitably face setbacks. However, as adults we can offer not just comfort but also context. If we understand the profound influence our words can have, especially on young minds we can use simple handwritten notes to serve as a valuable reminder of one's strengths, values, and the love behind them.
When's the last time you wrote a note to a child, letting them know what good traits you see in them? A few words can go a long way. Maybe it's time to pick up that pen again.